Friday, June 16, 2006

Random Act of Kindness?

I had some running around to do at lunch today (had to get gas, go to the bank, etc), so I decided to go to Timmies for a coffee and a tea biscuit. I went in as I didn't know what kind of tea biscuit I wanted. Just as I was walking in (this is irrelevant to my original story) a girl dropped a whole stack of plates! That absolutely could have been me, but no one got mad about it, they all just kind of laughed and joked with each other over it (I think that's the right kind of attitude to adopt, I mean what would getting angry have accomplished aside from making someone feel bad?). I ordered my coffee (with milk) and a cheese tea biscuit (buttered but not heated - I would heat it when I got back to work).

Leaving Tim's there were two elderly women coming around the corner from the parking lot. I waited and held the door for them asking if they were heading in for a coffee...the one woman said "Well isn't that a random act of kindness?" I just said you're welcome and that I hoped they enjoyed their coffee. I wouldn't say that was a random act of kindness at all, really it was just common courtesy. Letting the door shut in someone's face has got to be one of the rudest things ever. Ok, had I not held the door it wouldn't have shut in their face seeing as they still had to walk up 20 ft or so, but no matter how much of a hurry I am in, I always check behind me when I walk through doors to see if anyone is coming.

Same thing (well kind of the same thing) goes with smiling at people when you walk by them. Why not? There are very few people who won't smile back if you smile at them when you pass them. It especially pleases older people. I love the mall walkers who sit around in the food court after the mall opens. They are always laughing and carrying on, you can't help but walk by them and smile. I'm sure some people coming into the mall (meaning the majority of costumers who don't know I work for the mall) wonder why I always smile and say hello when I walk by them. Meh, I just think it's polite.

Not even sure where I was going with all this, or if there actually was some other point behind it other than to say that it's the polite thing to do.

Besides today was a good day. I was happy despite not feeling like working. How can Friday not be a good day? Plus, Glenn called to tell me that my skates were in, and I could stop by after work and he would wait until I came by so he could fit me. I felt a little bad because I didn't get there until nearly 5:30pm (it's just one exit further down the highway) because I was helping my boss' son with some excel graphs that he needed to do for his math project. I tried them on, loved them, he showed me how to brake one final time (haha guess it looked like a needed a refresher) and also explained how to rotate the wheels. I however must apologize, the rollerblade picture that I posted in the last blog weren't actually what mine look like. They are a little different, same basic idea though...soft boot, gray and blue mix...

I then jetted up to Gravenhurst for my 6:15pm hair appointment (with a brief stop at my sister's to use the washroom since it was on the way). Getting your hair washed at the hair dressers has to be one of the best things ever. I also had a conditioning treatment done. My hair ended up a little shorter than I'd have liked, but I told her to cut off whatever she needed to in order to get rid of the dead ends. I told her not to worry about drying it, wasn't going out tonight so didn't care what it looked like. But when I got home (of course the window was open in the car) it was all puffy and kind of looked like the mushroom cut I had in grade 7. I've since discovered it's JUST long enough to still pull back in a small pony tail. Besides, I'm sure if I properly blow dry it, it'll look much better. But it does feel SO much better now. I also bought the hair treatment to take home with me. I now have treatments for the next 5 weeks. I LOVE the Matrix Biolage line! It's definitely worth the money, and it really does last a long time! Each bottle of shampoo and conditioner lasts me several months. It's fantastic!

Seems I've been in a bit of a rambling mood the past little while...now if only I actually had something interesting to say!

2 Comments:

At 6:57 AM, Blogger Shakers said...

It's funny, I wouldn't have called that a random act of kindness prior to this past weekend.
I used to consider it to be the 'norm' to be simply POLITE, how wrong I was.

This weekend, we took the elevator downstairs, on our way out for dinner. (Brian is doing sooo much better.. and going out more often now. Yay Brian!!!) Anyway, as we were trying to get off the elevator on the first floor, two people, one a woman close to my age (20 - 25ish) had a bike, and Brian's mom and I had to litterally push through her to get out, because she was so determined to get in.

It was at the point, that Brian, moving a little more slowly than us with his cane in hand, was literally pinned in the elevator but the stupid little cunt. (yes I'm swearing now, and I think I might have been swearing then...)

I'm not a violent person.. in fact watching fights on TV and Movies turns my stomach and I have to look away.... but I'll tell you, I had the most incredible urge to punch that fucking idiot. (Yeah I'm still mad about it obiviously. LOL)

And I have to say, this young woman is not the first or last time that I have seen similar things happen. You see it all the time... On the subway, I watched this little old woman (she had to have been at least 80.. just one of those really really tiny cute white haired ladies who always looks like she's gonna pinch your cheeks) clutching the bars in the subway trying to stay on her feet, while a group of 10 or more people my age again sat right in front of her. Not one offering a seat. (I was already standing, having given up my seat for a hugely pregnant woman who I was honestly worried would go in to labour before making it to her stop)

So, apaprently, letting someone through the door IS a random act of kindness, rather than simple manners. Guess being friendly/respectful/helpful/patient etc isn't what's 'cool'. Isn't that a shame?

"The most revolutionary act one can commit in our world is to be happy."
~Patch Adams

 
At 7:52 AM, Blogger Verena said...

Yeah, elevators and subways have to be the worst place to find rude people! Talking of little old ladies, you should see them in Japan, most old ladies are hunched over beyond belief, so much so that you wonder how they stay standing on land let alone on the subway (not to mention how they STILL manage to use squatting toilets!?) and yet (though most people are pretty good about it there) some people still won't give up their damn seat. A seat on the train is a prized possession, you need it to sleep (though this isn't entirely true either, I saw many sleeping standing people there).

You know what's kind of funny though, now that I'm just thinking about it...Friday, I'm talking about how it's just common courtesy to hold doors open etc...then by Sunday, I'm in the car with sister giving some guy the finger because he's so impatient. Lol, guess I'm not as polite as I thought I was Friday.

I'm so happy to hear that Brian is doing so well now too! :)

 

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